Every good guy has to go through it. After going out with a girl for a couple years, things finally reach a point where moving to the next step of marriage is imminent. You think about the life that you two will have together and the precious moments that the both of you will create. Everything seems promising and happy when you think about the future that lies ahead.
But there is only one problem that is in the way of making that all come true.
The father.
That’s right, us good guys must have the man to man chat with the father to ask him if we can take his daughters hand in marriage. (It’s actually both parents, but the mother is usually easy going. It’s the father that concerns us because as males, we know how each other think)
The reason why it’s hard for the father to give up his daughter to some other male is because he has witnessed her grow from a sweet little girl in the playground to an attractive young lady who kisses boys and holds hands with them.
She’s gone from this:
To this:
All in a matter of years that seem to have just flown by.
He will always see her as the little girl that played with him and came to him when something went wrong. The sweet little princess he thought would never grow up, did.
But it’s the father’s deep love for his daughter that makes him wary of the man that wants to take her from him. Fathers want to see their daughter be happy and be able to bring a male into the family who can take care of her. If she is happy, he’s going to have a hard time not blessing the notion of marriage. He has probably been preparing for this for a while if his daughter has been going out with him for some time.
After being told the guys intentions, the father, trying to save all the precious time he has left with his daughter, goes into a reminiscent mode. He comes to the realization that his daughter is all grown up now and another man has the responsibility to take care of her now. It will take him a while to digest all of it and accept the new stage of his daughters life.
This talk between the man and the father is more for the father than the guy. We’re letting him down gently and hope that he understands that the first man in her life now is not him anymore, but her new husband to be.
However, if for some reason it doesn’t go well with the father and he says he doesn’t approve, males are going to ask the girl to marry him regardless of what the parents say. It’s only because we’re being polite and thoughtful that we ask the parents. Good guys go for what they want and don’t let obstacles get in their way. It’s also true that if you’re a good guy, the parents would have a HARD time not liking you.
Don’t worry Pops, when I want to marry your daughter, I’ll let you down gently. You will always have Father’s Day. 
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