Are you passing the Friend Approval Test?

The Friend Approval Test is one of the tests that can be either exciting to look forward to or dreadful to go through.

Friend Approval Test(FAT): The test that a guy/girl must pass in order to be accepted in the group of friends of their respective girlfriend/boyfriend.

Here are 5 pieces that are included in the FAT that you should take note(this goes for both guys and girls):

1. You need to treat the other person with respect. Seriously, ever heard the saying that you should treat people with respect and dignity? Yeah you might want to follow that advice. If you treat the person you are with badly, their friends will not put up with it, even if the other person does. If you’re treating the person badly, this relationship obviously is heading for the brinks. A good measure on what the persons friends think of you is if you get feedback on if they have good things to say about you. No feedback means the friends are not impressed.

2. You need to be independent and not reliant on their friends money. No one likes a smoocher. If you can’t make your own money and are constantly having things bought for you because of your lack of independence, her/his friends will NOT put up with this. You are taking value versus adding it in to the relationship. Good friends only want the best for their friends and if there is any indication of not being able to take care of yourself, you will be removed from equation.

3. You need to have a promising future and goals that you are working towards. Seriously. People like to brag about who they are with. “Oh I’m dating this really cool ambitious guy” etc. If you’re going out with a douchebag with no long term goals, you can’t be bragged about. In fact, you won’t even get mentioned in those conversations and if you are it’s in a negative and unimpressive tone.

4. You must not be annoying and say dumb things. When friends get together, they are always making fun and cracking jokes. It’s a time to unwind and get some laughter in. You never want to get to a level where you are perceived as annoying or in the situation where you say dumb things. If you do, you are asking to be made fun of. A couple instances of you being annoying will require you to seek the help of a disaster recovery coach because redeeming yourself is going to need extra help from the experts.

5. You can’t be clingy. It’s important that people have a proper balance between their friends and their significant other. If you prevent them from spending time with their friends, the friends will resent you because you are the person that is preventing the group from having a good time with friends. No one has ever been a successful clinger.

If you pass those 5 things you are well on your way to getting his/her friends to like you. Good luck on the FAT.

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# Linked to 8 February 2010 in Articles by Pat Dryburgh

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