I am constantly being told that the city is a difficult place to meet the opposite sex, why is that, we have a surplus of people, especially singles? I have talked to many men and they say that women are not approachable. I have also talked to lots of women and they tell me that men in the city never approach them. So we have a standoff, both parties waiting for the other to make a move and blaming the other sex. Why is it that both parties are waiting for the other to make the first move? I think that with men and women`s roles evolving in society, somehow we have all gotten a little confused on how we should be approaching this.
There are a few reasons that hold men back, fear of rejection, lack of confidence, laziness. Why? Possibly because of some of the women that they are targeting (unrealistic expectations). Do not assume just because you talk to any woman that she has to be attracted to you, just because you may be attracted to her is not a guarantee that she feels the same way. Same goes for Women. Men and women please just try socializing (talking) with no expectations. Do not limit who you casually talk to, you never know who else they might introduce you to or they may be a lot more interesting than you think. It’s just talking, not a proposal. I am a major networker, most people that work in the city know how to network, approach socializing for your personal life the same way. You never know what connections you might make.
There are also a lot of younger women that tend to flirt quite openly with older men. Sorry guys hate to burst your bubble, but sometimes it is the challenge, sometimes they are just trying to get drinks bought for them. I have actually seen the younger women betting on how many men they can get to buy them anything. Some women perceive that if they don’t move quickly and try to talk to any man that is mildly attractive, there will be plenty of other women after them. So some women tend to throw themselves at any seemingly available man. The end result is a lot of men have gotten really lazy and lost their game. If they were in the USA or Europe the local men would kick their butt socially and rightly so. These men know how to socialize, how to approach and how to talk to women. Women if you have dated elsewhere you know exactly what I mean. On the other hand, if the women is at all friendly and can actually approach a man, they automatically think that we want to take them home, not true. We might actually just want to socialize. You wouldn’t think a man wants you if he talked to you, why jump to conclusions when a woman talks to you first? Unfortunately this reaction has caused a lot of great women to think twice before talking to a stranger. I know I do, because this reaction has happened to me quite often. We all need to learn not to put expectations on anyone we are meeting for the first time. Look on it as an opportunity for conversation, Period. Don’t expect that every time that we talk to someone of the opposite sex it has to have a sexual overture.
Ladies we want the men to be the Hunter and pursue us, so make sure that you are putting out a welcome mat. Make sure that if you out to socialize, be happy, confident (you`re a wonderful woman remember) stay positive and above all else make sure and take the time to smile. If you are not in the best of moods, maybe a night at home with a good book or movie is a better option, that way no one gets hurt and no bad impressions are given out. I know, I say it over and over but everyone wants to talk to someone who is happy and comfortable in their own skin. Men, all women are attracted to a confident (not cocky) man, be brave. If a woman smiles at you she might be sending you a welcome mat, try not to pull the rug out from under her. Women please be gentle with the man that has taken that first step and tried to reach out and make contact, provided that he does so in a polite manner. If he has been rude and overbearing, he`s on his own. :)You may be standing at the threshold of a great new relationship or you may meet a wonderful new friend, activity partner or business associate. Any way it’s all good.
This is such a big problem for singles that I would welcome any input. Please share your thoughts on why this is such a problem in the city and how you think we can overcome it, in a perfect world.
Sheree Morgan
www.vancouverdating.match-works.com
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This proves my point most Canadian men (Western men in general) are first class wussbag betas who desperately need to learn Game.
I can’t believe how easy it is to get women once you know how. Forget speed dating, online dating or blind dates. That’s all crap geared toward losers who need remedial help finding someone. Why waste time and money on something that doesn’t work? Only by approaching women will get results and get the women you want. Read Paul Janka’s online article “Getting Laid in NYC.”
It addresses a lot of issues including what was written above.
By the way, who buys a girl a drink on a first date anyway? I know. Wussbag, betas!
I think you missed the point, yes, (socializing in the City) is important and women definetly want men to make the first move. But my intention was not to just get you laid. It was targeted at men who are looking for a real relationship based on honesty and respect.
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