There are many ways to meet a potential mate. One of them is through the means of online dating. I have to say that the act of online dating doesn’t make that much sense to me from a guys perspective. Why would you ever want to find that special mate from a picture on a webpage? It just doesn’t make sense to hide behind a computer to do this.
Outlined below, I have described 5 reasons why you don’t want to use online dating to find that mate.
1. Fake profiles. Many of the online dating sites are inundated with fake profiles. How is a single person to know if a profile is real or fake? There are some services that perform background checks on people first before they sign up. I find this a bit weird that someone would agree to a background check for an online dating site. I think people who are older in age are more likely to agree to these terms versus someone younger.
2. Outdated pictures that don’t look anything like what the person looks like now. Even if a person is truthful in who they say they are (ie. Age, Income level, past relationship experience etc. ) They might post a profile picture that is severely out-dated. It’s hard to police the posting of photos and the only way to know if a photo is recent or not is if there is a timestamp on the picture. And with sophisticated imaging editting software today, this can easily be tampered with.
3. Grey cloud - There’s always that grey cloud that lies over head to explain to people how you’ve met. I think we’ve reached a point in society where it is socially acceptable for people to meet online and not be put under the microscope. However, the negative perception is still out there.
4. Money - Many paid online dating sites only care about getting your money and don’t actually care about you finding someone. The more time you spend single, the more money they make from you being a subscriber.
5. Too many services There are so many dating sites out there, what is the probability of someone that you could be interested in going to the exact same site as you? The odds are very small.
Conclusion
There are alot of problems with online dating services. The best way to meet someone is just to keep exploring the community around you. You’ll eventually meet someone. Just stick with it and have patience!
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Ok now I cannot disagree with you more here. I have been an online dater for the past couple of years with great success and I have to say that for the most part I have had great luck. I have dated nearly 500 men in almost 2 years, so I know what I am talking about. Yes in that time I have had some dishonest men, some that say they are taller than they are and some they say they make more money, the biggest issue that came up was the body shape, I am not sure if people are not sure what athletic vs. a few extra pounds means but hey we all have our dreams right. I guess you figure you go to the gym four times a week that makes your body athletic. Really though I am not sure where in your community you are going to meet as many people as you are as you can on online dating it sounds like the person who wrote this article did not have much luck, maybe they just need help with a better profile.
I am not sure if 500 men in 2 years would be considered successful dating, unless of course that is your intention.
One of the biggest issue’s of online dating is that the majority are just looking to date the world, they are not seriously looking to find one person in general and it breeds a throwaway mentality.The smallest difference and they throw away that person thinking there are thousands more. Alot of people actually become addicted, kinda like the kid in the candy store. It is actually the main reason that people come to a matchmaker like myself they are tired of the dating merry-go-round and being used just for dates, that lead nowhere.
I agree if you want to be a serial dater that is the place to go. If you are looking for one serious relationship,after dating 500 men you should be able to pick one, get offline and actually work the relationship.
I wish you the best in your dating.Be careful online you have no idea who you are dealing with.
@Christina I find it hard to believe that you have dated 500 men in 2 years. I would have to get a better understanding of what you meant by “dating”.
Mathematically, that would have meant you dated 0.68 men every day. That’s around 7 men every 10 days for two years. That seems really odd to me.
@Sheree Totally agree with you. The best relationships are made offline.
-therelationshipguy