Chances are, if you’re a woman at a bar, and you’re semi decent looking you’re going to get hit on. Sorry, c’est la vie. Yeah I know, worst thing in the world to happen to a girl.
However, with the good, comes the bad! Guys have a tendency to get too clingy when they see an attractive woman in the bar. They approach the lady, talk up a storm and try to create interest and generate a rapport with her. …the problem is, some guys don’t get the hint.
She doesn’t want you to spend all your time with her.
She doesn’t want to be locked down by you.
She doesn’t want you to be daisy chained to her side.
Every time you turn your shoulder, the same guy is around her, no matter who she is talking with. Sure he’s attractive, sure she’s attractive, but she’s just not into him. The girl just wants to sample the guy to see if he’s worth the time and effort. If she’s done sampling and she’s not into him she’ll just be nice to the guy until he gets the hint and leaves.
Case in point:
I was at the bar the other night looking at a girl who was getting hit on by a bunch of guys. She was having a great time. However, there was one guy who was using all his efforts to hit on her, we’ll call him clingy Calvin. Everytime you looked around, clingy Calvin was with her. He must have wanted her to like him really bad. But you guessed it…… It didn’t work.
The problem was that instead of creating social value for himself with the people around him, he was creating a dependency on her that women hate.
As a result, that guy didn’t end up getting her and the girl ended up canoodling with a random guy who showed up. The guy she ended up with had social value because he was schmoozing with everyone in site. The moment that guy turned to the girl she dropped everyone she was with for him. Something to take note fellas. If you want the girl at the bar, you need to create yourself some social value. Being clingy is a step in the wrong direction! Just ask clingy Calvin.
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