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When you’re looking for a long term relationship, you are looking for “the one”: the person who sparked your interest the first time you laid eyes on them, the person who gives you butterflies every time you’re around them, and the person you couldn’t imagine your life without.
There are many “one”s that you may have noticed…..
Neo was “the one” in the Matrix. He was considered to be the guy who could prevent the Machines from taking over the world by freeing as many human minds as possible.
Michael Jordan was “the one” in basketball. I don’t think anyone can surpass the things that he accomplished.
Tiger Woods was “the one” and arguably revolutionized Golf into the sport that it is today.
But how do you know if the person you’ve been going out for a while is “the one”?
For starters, you first have to realize, that there is not only one person that can fulfill the needs of being “the one” for you. Many people have the potential of being “the one”. But there can only be someone that eventually wins out in the end.
Here are 7 ways to indicate that you have found “the one” to be your someone:
- It’s easy and it comes natural. Sometimes people have to go to great lengths and go out of their way to make someone happy. Other times, things come naturally and just being together and having the feeling of not having to try hard to fulfill the other person’s needs is a tell tale sign of a strong bond.
- Your partners imperfections and strange quirks is what you love most about them. You really know you like someone when the things that they see as bad traits about themselves is what makes you attracted to them. A minor mole? Maybe how stumpy their legs are? Or how about the several weight issues that people go through? If those are the things you love about them and don’t see as something to dislike, but more things to love, then you KNOW they’re the one.
- You are each other’s best friends. Finding a best friend is hard. Some people live their life without being able to find one. Best friends can tell each other anything and everything and develop a bond that is so insurmountable that breaking that bond is as challenging as creating it in the first place. It’s as if two people become one person.
- Friends and Family see what you see. Your perception of how things are progressing within your relationship may not be the true reality of how things really are. If both your closest friends and family see the same things as you do when it comes to how you interact with each other both verbally and non- verbally, it’s a great way to validate and reassure that things are on a great path.
- There is minimal drama. Drama in a relationship is a big sign of things going wrong. If both of you would rather avoid drama and manage and resolve conflict quite easily, both of you can sleep well at night knowing that any problem that is thrown at both of you can be dealt with in a mature manner without compromising the relationship. Let’s be realistic, most people are busy these days with work, personal lives, the daily mundane stuff that takes up our time. Would you like to spend your precious time fighting or loving each other? It’s an easy decision for me at least.
- You go to him/her before you conduct a Google Search. Let’s face it, in this digital age people have tied themselves to search engines. Google can tell you many things about what you are looking for. Good restaurants, what to do in certain situations, how to become a better person etc. You can get those answers within seconds because they make it extremely easy. By going to your partner first, before using one of the easiest tools known to man, says something about the relationship. It’s a strong statement. It says that I care about the opinion of my boyfriend/girl friend above all of the people who have expertise and authority in that specific area!
- You just know. I put this one because sometimes you just can’t describe it to people. You just know that you’ve met the one.
I hope everyone out there reading this has met “the one”, or is very close to meeting “the one”. If you think you have, try verifying it against the 7 items above and you just might be on your way to a happily ever after!
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