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Have you ever experienced it? You’re carrying on with your daily mundane tasks of the world and you suddenly make eye contact with someone you find attractive for a split second. What happens? More often than not, people just look away. That moment that’s shared between those two individuals is vapourized into thin air. Should you have said something? Should you have smiled? Should you have echoed a harmless greeting such as “hello” or “Good Morning!”?
This happens to everyone. We all encounter random people and lock eyes with them. Were we meant to establish a connection with those people or let them go on their merry way? What about those incidences you hear about two people randomly meeting and end up getting married?
If a man and woman lock eyes on each other, I would argue that the guy should never look away from her. By being the first one to look away, I think you’re indicating that you do not want to engage in any lines of communication with the other person.
Let’s run through two scenarios together, one where the guy looks away first and two, where the girl looks away first.
Scenario #1 - The guy looks away first
Most relationships are blossomed by the man making the first move. If the man is the first one to look away, is he making a move? Of course not. He’s being a coward and showing a lack of confidence. If he looks away, he has ended it for himself. What does he expect to happen? For the girl to slap him on the shoulder and say “hey buddy, it’s nice to meet you!………”. That will never happen.
Scenario #2 - The girl looks away first
People naturally don’t want to be caught staring at people. If a woman looks away first after making contact, don’t think anything negative of it. It’s natural. The question is, how do you recover from her looking away? The only two ways that I can see yourself recovering is 4 ways….
- Saying that you’re lost and ask her if she knows where place X is.
- Drop something in your hand hoping for her to help you pick it up
- Trip and fall.
- Before she has the chance to look away, just say “Good Morning/Afternoon!”.
Conclusion
Never be the first person to look away from the other person - hands down. Keep looking, smile, and be prepared to say something when the situation calls for it.
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Eye contact and the woman holding it and then shly looking away is a known flirting technique that works.