The TorontoSpeedDate Advice Column
Melissa from Toronto writes:
Q(Melissa): So my fiancée and I are about to get married. The only problem is, he doesn’t want to sign a prenup. My personal net worth is higher than his. He doesn’t like to talk about prenups because he doesn’t want us to talk about the possibility of us breaking up. How should I approach this? What should I do?
A(Relationship Guy): Many people think that prenups are taboo and shouldn’t be considered. In fact, why should prenups exist in the first place? By the basic pretense and definition of marriage When people get married they are supposed to live happily ever after and nothing could tear the people in love apart from each other.WRONG! If Jim Carrey and Jennifer Mccarthy, although never married(together for 5 years), are any indication to you, you need to get your shit together and watch your back(GYSTAWYB).
You have probably worked hard for things you have acquired, if the relationship were to go sour, do you really see yourself having to split that 50-50 with someone?
I think you should sit him down and tell him: look stop being a baby, we need a prenup or this shit isn’t going to work out. If the tables were reversed, I bet he would be looking for a prenup to protect what he has. Have the confidence to tell him that you love him BUT if anything were to happen, it’s in both of our best interests that what you guys possess going into the marriage should not be shared if there was an unfortunate break up.
Let me know how it goes, Melissa!
-The Relationship Guy
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